My New Happy

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Highlight Your Tallness

Happy Wednesday and welcome to TBB Style with The Blended Blog.  Our fabulous hostess this week is Abbie, so be sure to pay her a visit and add your post to the link up!

Today we're sharing an outfit that highlights our assets.  Admittedly, at 51 years of age, I'm still not very good at buying things that work best for my body.  I tend to be impulsive with my fashion choices, and if I like something, it goes in my closet.  And then it sits there because it's not right for me and I shouldn't have bought it.  Something to work on.  


This, however, is an outfit I should wear more often.  Have I mentioned that I'm tall?  Yes? I feel like I talk about it all the time, because truthfully I've always wished I could chop a few inches off my height.  But it is what it is, so lately I've been wearing higher heels and embracing my verticalness.  (Hmm...spell check says that isn't a word...but Google says it is, so it's staying).

I'm wearing a column of color which elongates the body and makes you appear taller.  The sweater coat breaks up all that black and adds visual interest.  It could probably be a bit longer, but I think the proportions still work.  If you want to look like you've suddenly grown a few inches, this is one way to go.

How about you?  Do you dress for your body type, or is it a free for all like me?  

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Monday, January 21, 2019

The Year Ahead


Happy Monday!  Hope you had a great weekend, and for all my East Coast friends, hope you didn't get too much snow.  Thanks for the feedback on last Friday's post.  For now I'll just keep going and see where it takes me.

Which leads me to today's prompt with The Blended Blog.  Resolutions and new beginnings.  For years, I dutifully made a list of resolutions, usually while watching Dick Clark's New Year's Eve show.  Which was SO much better than the current Ryan Seacrest version.  But I digress.

I don't do resolutions anymore.  You get to a certain point in your life when you realize that some things need to change right now, not next Monday, and not when January rolls around.  Last October I started down a healthier path, mostly because I didn't have a choice.  It's a work in progress, but I've made more steps forward than back, so that's a win.

I'm trying to look at the bigger picture in 2019.  What do I want?  What do I need?  I didn't choose a specific word, but "possibility" keeps popping into my head when I think about the year to come.  Happy, positive, and joy are also contenders.

One of the areas I'm trying to work on is framing things in a more positive way.  Rather than seeing this whole empty nest thing as bad, I'm looking at all the possibilities that have opened up to me.   There are things I want to do with my blog.  I want to write more, travel more, and spend more time with my husband.  I want to meet new people and find out what I can learn from them.  I want to stretch myself, scare myself, and expect myself to be brave.  When next January rolls around, I want to be amazed at the year that was. 

The possibilities truly are endless.

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Friday, January 18, 2019

So Many Maybe's

Hello, friends, and happy Friday.  Maybe it's the migraine I've been fighting all day, maybe it's the return of the rain.  But I'm feeling a blogistential crisis coming on.  So many maybe's.


It happens a few times a year, so I suppose I'm due.  I've been a little bored with my blog lately, which leads me to wonder, why am I here again?  I'm thankful for my readers, and I dearly love my blog friends.  But am I bringing anything to the table?  Or does that even matter?  Writing is a passion, so maybe that's enough.  

So what to write about?  Health stuff?   Middle age is no joke, and it's kind of a shock to wake up at 50 and realize that you can't take good health for granted anymore.  I've been on a bit of a journey lately, with pretty good results.  Maybe I should share more of that.

What about my travels and adventures?  When your kids are little you yearn for more time.  Time for yourself, time for your spouse, time to figure out who you are and what you want to be.  Then suddenly the kids are grown and you have all this time, and no idea what to fill it with.   Another road I'm journeying down.  Maybe I should write more about that.

I do know that I'd like to blog more from the heart.  My friend Loretta writes "flash non fiction".  She sits down and pours out 500 words on whatever subject grabs her attention that day.   I love that idea for myself.  Maybe.

In the end, I know that I'll keep on keeping on, even if hardly anyone is reading.  It's been almost five years, and I can't imagine giving up this little space on the interwebs, or connecting with all of you.  

What do you guys think?  So many maybe's...

Wednesday, January 16, 2019

What I'd Wear To The Gym

Happy Wednesday and welcome to TBB Style with The Blended Blog.  Our fabulous hostess this week is Shelly, so be sure to pay her a visit and add your post to the link up!

Today we're sharing our workout clothes.  Which, in my case, are not fit to be seen on the blog.  99 percent of the time I work out at home, and I've got a few pair of tattered shorts and t-shirts that I rotate through.  They're old and full of holes and never make it outside the house.

But if I were to actually go to a gym, this is probably what I'd wear.


I'm not one to spend a ton of money on active wear (obviously, refer to ratty workout clothes above).  Mostly because it just gets all sweaty.  Also, I like variety.  Which is why I love Old Navy.  Their active wear is cute and inexpensive, and honestly holds up pretty well.  And who doesn't want to wear pretty pink flowers to yoga class?
The top is from Collette at Brand Squawk, a boss babe I wrote about on Monday.  This shirt is so soft and cozy, and pretty much sums up every day of my life.  And yes, I'd wear long sleeves to the gym because I'm cold even there.


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Monday, January 14, 2019

Boss Babes You Should Know

Happy Monday!  Hope you had a great weekend.  It was unseasonably warm and sunny here, so we took advantage and got outside.  Even my daffodils are about to bloom...which isn't going to end well for them when things come crashing back to winter in a few days.

Today I'm linking up with The Blended Blog to share a few Boss Babes you should know about.  This is an exciting topic, because I love the act of supporting each other, any way we can.  I can't wait to meet all the Boss Babes!

↣ Let's start with Collette, founder and owner of Brand Squawk.  This Canadian boss babe started her clothing company two years ago.  She designs positive vibe t-shirts and sweatshirts for the jeans and tee girl.  All of her apparel pieces are hand screened and created in limited numbers, and they're high quality and FUN!  Collette also donates a portion of every piece sold to World Bicycle Relief Organization, which builds and distributes rugged bicycles for women in rural areas of Africa.  This amazing woman has built a fantastic company, so go check her out!


↣ I've written about Mary from Evolve With Mary before, because she's one of those people that just makes you smile.  She's happy, inspiring and uplifting - and she's also a fabulous boss babe artist.  Go here to check out a few of her art pieces.

↣ Recently, a sweet lady contacted me on IG and asked if she could send a few of her necklaces.  I looked through Catherine's boss babe Etsy shop and was immediately taken with her beautiful, handmade jewelry.  Her designs are unique, well made, and full of positivity and meaning.  If you're looking for a very special gift for someone in your life, head to Katia Designs.


↣ My friend Catherine is a boss babe among boss babes.  Founder of the Forever Fierce Revolution, she has created a community for women to help change the perception of midlife and beyond.  Through podcasts, newsletters, weekend experiences and the Facebook group, she's working to show the world that women at midlife are vital, strong, and influential.  Catherine is also one of the kindest, most supportive women you will ever meet.

↣ And finally, some brand new boss babes.  Deena, Abbie, and their friend Rachel are just launching Salt and Light Lifestyle and I have a feeling it's going to be amazing.  They'll be writing a blog, doing a podcast, and selling curated apparel pieces.  It's fun to witness the beginning of their journey.  You'll want to follow them!


Be sure to hop over to The Blended Blog to link up your posts and share your boss babes!  Have a great week!

Friday, January 11, 2019

Grab The Happy


Hello, I'm Lana... and I'm anxious.  I've been this way for as long as I can remember.  As a child, I worried that something bad would happen to my mom and dad when they went out at night.  I was afraid every time I visited my grandparents that it would be the last time I'd see them.  In high school and college I fretted over every grade, every friendship, every event.  I don't think I was even aware that I was anxious all the time.  It's just who I was.

With age I've gotten better at managing my anxiety, and I use lots of different techniques to keep it under control.  Exercise, vitamins, good sleep, getting outside.  I wish I wasn't an anxious person.  But worrying about that just causes more anxiety, so I've learned to accept and manage it and move on.

Sometimes, though, it gets the best of me.  All the losses and changes come rolling in at once, out of nowhere.  December was tough.  It's no surprise that things can be hard during the holidays, but usually it's a time that I love.  This year, as I sat with my anxiety (and I'll admit, even a little panic some days), I got angry with myself.  Generally, I'm a happy person (and yes, you can be anxious AND happy).  Life is better than good.   Sure, crappy stuff has happened.  But nothing devastating, nothing life ruining, nothing worth being so damn anxious about.

My happiness is there, waiting to take the lead, but many days I let it get smothered by the anxiety.  Why?  Why do I choose to let negative thoughts take over and push everything else away?  I truly believe, in my particular case, that I am in charge of my own happiness.  Nobody else.  I can decide to be happy, or I can decide to be an anxious mess.  And I'm so tired of being anxious.  It's exhausting. 

So, to quote Whitesnake, "Here I go, again on my own."  I don't think they were  talking about anxiety per se, but I'm going with it.  I've got big plans for this year, things I want to do and become.  Places I want to go, literally and figuratively.  My word for the year is POSSIBILITY and anxiety is not going to hold me back.


On New Year's Eve I decided to write a list of all the things that aren't serving me, that are holding me back, that are adding to my anxiety.  Hurts, sorrows, problems, people, and situations.  All of it.  It was a LONG list.  Then I went outside, said a prayer or two or three, and burned that list up.  I don't need those things anymore.

The next day I got back into my morning routine.  Meditation, journaling, reading inspirational books, and praying.  I got outside and went snowshoeing with my family.  Fresh air and exercise can fix just about anything.  I ate well.  I took deep breaths.  And after one day I could feel the heaviness starting to lift.  Such simple things that make such a difference.  Why do I always forget about them?

And then I saw a FB post from my friend Rosie Dalton.  She is a beautiful, kind, inspirational woman that I had the pleasure of meeting at FierceCon in October.  She's been to hell and back, but when you meet her, the light just shines out of her heart and soul.  In her post, she wrote about 'grabbing the happy'.  "Happy is not necessarily going to come looking for you.  Sometimes it pops in as opportunity whizzing by gleefully, hoping that you will grab it by the hand".  As I read her words, I felt such a sense of peace wash over me.  And a direction.  A light at the end of the anxiety tunnel.  

I will always be anxious.  It's part of who I am.  But it doesn't get to take over anymore.  I won't let it be in charge.  I'm going to grab the happy and hang on for the ride.

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

TBB Style: A Tale Of Two Pink Coats

Happy Wednesday and welcome to our fashion link up with The Blended Blog.  I'm hosting today, so hop over there to see my new leopard coat (spoiler alert - it's only $28), and be sure to add your link!

There's a saying in Seattle - "if you don't like the weather, wait a minute".  That's especially true in the winter.  Yesterday we woke up to snow, then the sun came out for a bit, and by evening it was windy and pouring rain.  Which means a girl needs lots of options for outerwear, right?

Might be time for a coat closet purge...

I've got trench coats, puffy coats with and without hoods, fleece coats, rain coats, long and short wool coats, and ski coats.  What I didn't have was a pink fuzzy coat.  Random?  Yes, until I walked into the Coach store while shopping with my mom and sisters in December, and saw the most beautiful coat ever.  It was pink sherpa with leather pockets, and reversed to pink leather with a sherpa collar.  It was love at first sight, and I quickly tried it on before looking at the price.  Oops...it fit like a glove, but the price tag was almost $3,000.  Way more than I want to spend on a coat - I'd rather go on a trip somewhere!

Ahh...there she is.  At least we'll always have this picture together.

Fast forward to Christmas morning, opening presents with family.  My sweet sister in law had searched high and low to find me a fuzzy pink coat that everyone's budget could live with.  And I think she nailed it!  My son says I'm balling like Drake in this coat - which I think is a compliment?


It's completely impractical for Seattle's climate, and it's a little big. But nothing a few resewn buttons won't fix.  And there's money left over for some travel!

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